“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor. If either one of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.” Eccleciastes 4:9-10
The students that work in my office often tease me for not being current on trendy sayings and hashtags. Working on a college campus, I often feel irrelevant as a woman in my thirties. One of the most frequent terms I’ve heard in the past two years is #squadgoals. The first time I heard the hashtag, I completely dismissed it as a concept I’d never use in my personal life. However, as I started to hear the phrase over and over again in my office, I took it upon myself to really find what this social media hashtag was supposed to represent. In short, I found that squad goals are essentially what you’d like your group of friends to be or accomplish.
Reflecting more on this, I started to think about my current friend groups. Ranging from childhood friends to close bonds made through church small groups, I considered myself blessed when thinking about the God-centered relationships I’ve been allowed on this earth. But it isn’t until we’ve experienced something profound, whether joyful celebration or tearful tragedy that we see how much our friends mean to us.
“As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Proverbs 27:17
Several years ago, my pastor’s wife asked me to co-lead an infertility small group with her. I was skeptical of my abilities at first, but found it to be a rewarding experience. A few semesters later, we toyed with the idea of having another small group of its kind. During our first group meeting, we all shared our heartache over infertility struggles, miscarriages, and adoption losses. It was the first time I had truly felt like others could understand my emotional rollercoaster during baby showers, anxiety over friends giving unwarranted advice, or the simple fact that on many days the Holy Spirit has truly given me a peace and a testimony using this season of my life. Since the beginning of that small group, many of the women in that group have finally received the miracle for their family God has promised. Celebrating with each of them through ultrasound pictures and baby showers, I know the squeals of delight I’ve had have been a genuine happiness celebrating God’s faithfulness.
Although I wish today would have been a joyful day in my infertility story, it is sadly one of the lower points of my journey. But despite the personal disappointment that my own heart has been going through leading up to this date, I’ve been met with a supernatural level of peace that I know only God can provide. Even though many of the ladies in my group are now moving forward in their story of growing their family, they have not forgotten me. I have been blown away by the number of calls, texts, and hugs on a day that would be ordinary to any other person. Because they as man have not forgotten, I know without a doubt that God has not forgotten me either.
“All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
Sweet sister, your story or circumstance may not be like mine, but if you’ve ever experienced hurt or disappointment, you may know all too well that the enemy likes us to feel isolated in those circumstances. Thankfully we have a God that wants us to know that He is with us always. In fact, if we allow Him, the circumstances can provide a platform for His people to gather and petition in His name. I challenge you today to set your squad goals as those focused on speaking words of life over each other, praying for each other, and serving as each other’s accountability partners. #ultimatesquadgoals
“For where two or three gather in My name, I am with them.“ Matthew 18:20
Father God, Thank You for creating us in a way that fosters love and relationships. Lord, we also thank You for never letting us feel isolated when the truth is that You are with us always. Lord, we bind away any attacks from the enemy that would make us feel like we are unworthy of being in Your presence. Lord, we lift away any anxiety in our life knowing that You equip us with a spirit of love, strength, and sound-mind. We thank You always for Your grace, mercy, and ultimate gift of salvation. Amen
~ Sheena Gregg