My husband and I recently visited with dear friends who like us have experienced the loss of a baby. We had held off talking about our angel babies that night until we were at our car about to leave. I couldn’t bear to not say something about our babies, so I brought up grief. We talked about how sadly some of our family and friends had seemingly vanished after our losses and the pain and sadness that has brought us, along with the grief. I talked about how very blessed I felt by family and friends who were there for me and still are and how important that has been to me through my grief journey. I talked about how crucial their presence was to me and how it wasn’t what they said or didn’t say or what they did or didn’t do, but that they were there. They were present and without saying a single word they made a difference. Every time I look back on those moments I’m reminded of this scripture.
“Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and seven nights. No one said a word to him, because they saw how great his suffering was.” Job 2:13 | NIV
As we continued talking my friend said, “I call that the Power of Presence.” I asked her to repeat what she had said because I couldn’t believe she called it the exact same thing I did. The Power of Presence! There is something powerful about your presence. Never underestimate the power of your presence. It can truly change someone’s life.
On the way home I talked to my husband about it and then sat quietly thinking about it on the way home and for the next several days. I thought about what it meant for me to have those family and friends be present with me during my darkest time. I was and still am abundantly blessed with family and friends who poured their selves out to me and my family through cards, messages, gifts, and prayers, but looking back there was something so uniquely powerful about those who came to be with us. Those who came to be with us at our baby’s funeral on a dark, cold, rainy December Sunday, those who came and sat with me on the floor of my baby boy’s nursery and listened to every word I said, those who came to simply say, “I’m here if you need me.”
As the week went on I thought about MY presence and MY being there for others and what it might mean to them. I thought about how I could do a better job at being there for others.
I thought about God’s presence and how through the love poured out to me I was able to feel His presence like I had never felt it before. I felt a love like I had never felt before, a love that I can only describe as God’s love.
God kept tugging at my heart for several days and I kept pondering over all of this in my mind, until it hit me…What about my presence with God!
I became overwhelmed and humbled. God longs for my presence with Him too. He loves for me to come to Him not just through prayer and petition, but relationship. He wants me to be with Him now on earth and for eternity in Heaven. Just like I so deeply long for the day that I am present with BOTH of my children, God longs to be present with ALL of His children as well.
Friend, there is power in your presence. Do not underestimate the power of your presence. Be present for others, but remember to be present with God. Spend time with Him. He wants to spend time with you. Now and for all of eternity!
“But as for me, it is good to be near God. I have made the Sovereign Lord my refuge; I will tell of all your deeds.”
Psalms 73:28 | NIV
“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” Joshua 1:9 | NIV
Dear Heavenly Father,
I thank you for your presence that goes with me wherever I may go. Thank you for always going ahead of me. Help me be obedient when you call me to be there for others and to never forget that you long for my presence as well. Fill me with the power of your Holy Spirit, so that others may feel your presence through me.
In Jesus’ precious name, Amen.
Crystal Buck is God’s daughter, wife to Travis, and a mother of two precious babies — an angel baby boy, John Clayton, and a sweet miracle baby girl, Juliana Catherine. She is a full time working mom and business owner who never meets a stranger. When you’ve met her once, you’re called a friend. Many people got to know the Bucks when they joined their family’s journey in December 2013 when Crystal and Travis welcomed their first born baby, a son, born extremely premature (23 weeks, 4 days gestational age) who made an impact on many lives during his time on earth of less than 4 days. Crystal is eager to share her family’s story from grief to joy through Craving God Ministries. She is stepping out in faith and following her vision and calling from God to speak to women. She wants to share her stories and love for God in hope that they may inspire and encourage others when they need it most.