It’s that time of year: graduation season! High school, college, and graduate school students are teetering on the edge of the cliff, staring over the edge to the great crevasse in front of them: ADULTHOOD. So many feelings and emotions are rolling over these graduates: excitement, terror, relief, and hopefully some happiness and a sense of accomplishment.
I am also hearing a whole bunch of anxiety…and this makes me sad. This anxiety seems to boil down to this question: am I going to miss it?
In other words, if I make one wrong turn or decision or choice, am I going to miss God’s plan and purpose for my life? Am I going to miss out on my dream?
I hear another form of this question from my friends that are closer to my age: did I miss it or is there more for me?
If I don’t move to this certain town, am I going to miss out on my dream job/spouse?
If I don’t work for this certain employer, am I ever going to become what I have dreamed?
If I don’t attain this position/circumstance/marital status by age ____, am I going to miss it (and it is too late)?
“I know that You can do all things, and that no thought or purpose of Yours can be restrained.”
The longer I live and the closer I get to God, the more I believe: you are NOT going to miss it and it is never too late.
You’re not going to miss it because your dreams and purpose are not about the job or the position or the town or the marital status or the circumstances. God does not hold your dreams and purpose behind “Door #1” so that if you choose “Door #2” you don’t get to live your purpose or realize any of your dreams. I don’t believe God operates that way.
“Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Matthew 7:9-11
Instead of life being about a destination (a dream job, a dream position, a dream spouse, a dream location); with God, it is all about the process. God wants to take you on a journey to your purpose. Sometimes (a lot of times in my opinion), that journey IS your purpose.
Your journey will be full of ups and downs, chock full of victories and failures, and stocked with lessons and loss. Throughout all of these highs and lows, God is developing you. He is forming your character, your commitment, your community and your competence.
“For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” Ephesians 2:10
Embrace and treasure every single day on your journey for what each day holds. The day may not hold what you wanted, but God will use it. Nothing is wasted with God.
Your purpose is not about one big decision that results in you missing your one shot; instead, it is about a thousand little decisions made day by day by day.
A huge factor in your journey is WHO you are traveling with.
Be intentional about creating your community. Seek out friends and mentors that you aspire to be like and that you admire. Find also some gentle and loving souls that will speak life over you, encourage you, share your joy, comfort you in your pain and hold you accountable.
Why do we have to go through this process? Is there so much preparation? So that we will rest in Him, trust Him, and acknowledge that He gets the credit for every good thing we do.
“Now God has us where he wants us, with all the time in this world and the next to shower grace and kindness upon us in Christ Jesus. Saving is all his idea, and all his work. All we do is trust him enough to let him do it. It’s God’s gift from start to finish! We don’t play the major role. If we did, we’d probably go around bragging that we’d done the whole thing! No, we neither make nor save ourselves. God does both the making and saving. He creates each of us by Christ Jesus to join him in the work he does, the good work he has gotten ready for us to do, work we had better be doing.”
Ephesians 2:10 The Message
Cast all your care on your Daddy, your God who loves you unconditionally- The One who formed you and fashioned you to bring Him glory. He doesn’t miss a thing- and this means that as long as you are walking with Him, He will make sure you don’t miss it either.
“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28
Kristen Love is a peddler of hope with a heart for the lost, for the broken, and for the bruised. She is a devoted follower of Jesus with a living testimony that God can use even our poor choices and turn them around for His glory. She enjoys adventures around the world exploring and marveling at God’s creation while meeting and loving His people. Kristen is (super) mama to a teenage son who keeps things real. She loves to read and is excited to be back in school studying Ministry. Kristen also has the honor of working full-time as a lawyer, planting seeds and watering them wherever she is able (See 1 Corinthians 3:6-9).